Whether you’re a new mom or a seasoned pro, the first days (weeks) home with a new baby is challenging. Because we are all used to being Superwoman in our own lives, though, there is always a rather strong temptation to say no when help is offered. Politely decline. “Oh, you don’t need to.” The better answer – and I firmly suspect Kate’s answer – is a gracious “Thank you, that would be lovely.” Here’s why.
Saying “Yes” actually is a favor to the helper. We’re women. We do for others. We don’t want to put anyone out. So why on earth would we impose on a friend (even if she offered)?! Think of how you feel when a friend says “yes” to you? It’s fulfilling and affirming.
What does this have to do with Kate? One of the reasons so many of us admire the Duchess of Cambridge is that she has remained true to herself – “real” – despite the enormous changes in her life over the last few years. She has to be acutely aware that she is difficult to buy for now that she has access to anything her heart desires. For the visiting friend who doesn’t wish to dabble too highly in the gift stakes, offering up a meal or a washing up, running an errand that Kate can’t easily run without drawing the press, or snuggling with the newest HRH to give Kate a few minutes with Prince George becomes a priceless gift that is heartwarming for both giver and receiver.
Saying “Yes” makes for a better wife. First and foremost, accepting help can free up a few extra moments for Kate and William. It is no secret that they are an affectionate couple and Catherine would undoubtedly jump at the chance for some extra one-on-one time with her Prince (especially as he’s due to get back to work in a few short weeks).
One of the most special “dates” my husband and I ever shared was a delicious salmon dinner prepared by a dear neighbor, carried from next door on beautifully-appointed trays and enjoyed at a leisurely pace while our neighbor held our infant son in the next room. We weren’t ready to be away from our baby just yet, but we sorely needed to reconnect with each other, and our neighbor’s kindness was more valuable than any gift she could have purchased.
Saying “Yes” makes for a better mom. With as devoted as we have seen Kate be with Prince George, I am sure she would choose playing cars with Cheeks over lugging laundry. Quality time with an older sibling can be especially difficult with a newborn, but sharing the load also gives Kate the opportunity to maintain her close relationship with George.