If you enjoy reading this blog, then it’s quite likely that you admire Duchess Kate for many traits. Be it her composure, her style, or the like, there is a reason that you gravitate towards emulating her persona. However, it is important to realize that every single human being has flaws – even our lovely Duchess! Sometimes it can be difficult to remember this as we look around us and see glossy photos of perfectly coiffed hair, stunning makeup, and people who seem to have it all. While it is perfectly acceptable and encouraged to look towards a person for inspiration, it is important to remember that they are not infallible.
I’m certain that even Duchess Kate feels that she has flaws (although yes, we are hard-pressed to believe that!). Like us, she is only human and probably falls into a trap of focusing on them a little too much every now and again. If you find that you have been doing this too often lately, try to keep the below points in mind and take ownership of your thoughts the way Duchess Kate would.
Remind yourself that no one is perfect
Remind yourself when you need to that no one is perfect. Everyone is fighting their own internal or external battles. It could be an internal battle with depression or perhaps they are self-conscious over a certain physical attribute. It has become increasing difficult with the advancement of social media to separate reality from illusions. For example, a friend from high school shows off their brand-new BMW 5 Series. Instantly, your confidence falters and you wonder how they’ve become so successful. What you don’t see is that they might be living paycheck to paycheck to make it all work. However, even if that’s not the case, it is critical to remember that the life portrayed on social media is not necessarily real life all the time.
Don’t compare yourself to others
In this same regard of remembering that no one is perfect, don’t entertain comparing yourself to another person. I don’t know who said this originally (please feel free to share in the comments if you do!) but I love the quote that goes something like this: “The only person you should compete with is the person you were yesterday.” Always strive to be the best person you can be each day. This is the real challenge.
Focus on attributes you love
If you happen to have a gorgeous mane of hair like Duchess Kate, focus on that rather some physical flaw that is usually more apparent to you. Take time to silently compliment yourself. I love when I hear people say that you should silently speak to yourself as you would your best friend.
Change what you can
There are some things you just can’t change and for that you need to be accepting and recognize that everyone else faces the same struggle. For those which you can change, take ownership of that if it’s important enough to you.
Surround yourself with those who celebrate who you are
Lastly, and this is important, surround yourself with family and friends who celebrate you and do not focus on your flaws. If the latter is happening, then this is a toxic person and they shouldn’t be in your life. The people who surround us, and the ones we look to for encouragement, should inspire us to live our best life, be the best person that we can be, and most importantly, be accepting of ourselves.